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Av: sundai

sundai — Wed, 12 Sep 2012 13:20:33 +0000

How right you were when decided to share your story, dear Ebba. For me it was a really significant deed of you. Appreciated (:
(I had no intention to tell my story, it came out accidentally, but since there are some of them in comments I think it’s okay if I just leave it here.)
Since I entered the highschool I was left out from day one, and it’s already 6th year of coping with it. Tough times, what can I say. Plus it had to be quite a new situation, because in primary children liked me. I can even tell I was “popular” in my class. Then in one moment it all turned out this way.
Not only my social position that’ve been changed, it was me who was changed by this. I became right opposite from a child I was – introvert, shy and fearful of people, my selfesteem just dropped dead. The following years I spent analysing myself, trying to figure out what’s wrong with me, looking for some answers, improving my appearance, crying sometimes, thinking… I’m a passive person who won’t even start talking to anyone first, so I remained lonely. (On the other hand, all of a few friends that I have now are real with no doubt, and I’m happy at least for that.)
What you told there was surprising to all I knew before. I always thought that you can’t blame people for not understanding you, for that you were left out… Believed, that it’s only my fault, and every left out kid has no one to blame but themselves, that THEY are wrong, not the society.
But you. Maybe in Sweden it’s different, but in my country I can’t imagine girl like you being not accepted… Not you.
I’ve just read this post and it’s so hard to believe that maybe I was wrong, thinking it’s only me to blame. But it takes quite some time to change your mind, right? (: Through this years I somehow managed to know who I am, so I’ll just keep dreaming that sometimes I’ll find my people. I have a plan to move to the city I love, all alone, and start again. Hope it could become the best choice I could do, like your one was (:

Av: Alicia

Alicia — Tue, 14 Aug 2012 17:36:07 +0000

Thank you Ebba.

Av: Maria

Maria — Fri, 10 Aug 2012 10:40:12 +0000

I would never have guessed that someone like you could’ve been through something like this. You seem so confident, you are pretty and most importantly you have the confidence and guts to wear what you really want. To be honest, it makes me a little satisfied and happy to see that i am not the only one who has gone through something like this in life. I almost cried while i was reading this, because it brings back so many memories of how i struggled through my years in high schoolt. You are amazing and thank you for writing and sharing this with us

Av: gemma o.

gemma o. — Thu, 09 Aug 2012 06:23:43 +0000

Dear Ebba,
It was wonderful to read this and had a lovely message which I am glad you put out.
When I was in year 7 I had one friend in my homegroup and it wasn’t long before she started hanging out with the other girls and calling my names so she could be accepted into their crowd. I was alone in that class for a long time and was called weird and nerd, because all my actual friends were in a different homegroup. I am so glad that I didn’t change who I was then and that even though I was bullied I stayed true to myself, because now I have wonderful friends who like me for who I am. I moved from that state school to a steiner school 3 years ago and that was the best thing I have ever done. I still keep in contact with some of my old friends, but it is this steiner school that has shaped the person I am today. My whole class is incredibly close and friendly and we don’t have to all be best friends, but they do accept me for who I am.

My biggest message (and i hope someone reads this): Never change who you are for others.

Av: Leo (DIN GAMLA TEATERKLASSKAMRAT HEJ)

Leo (DIN GAMLA TEATERKLASSKAMRAT HEJ) — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 21:44:20 +0000

Vackert skrivet och vad söt du var Ebba

Av: Inna

Inna — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 20:56:05 +0000

It’s really nice of you to share your experience with us, thank you It’s surprising how so many people were once bullied, and you would never imagine that it happened to them.
I was bullied when I was 10 years old. My entire class was teasing me every day, I cried so many times in the playground, I cried at home, I didn’t want to go to school, I didn’t understand what was happening to me, what I did to deserve this. I changed school too, for a bigger one, where it was easier to fit in.
I’m 21 now and I am still recovering. I don’t trust people easily, I generally don’t let them see the real me.
I’m glad you didn’t give up on what makes you special You look so cute on the picture !

Av: Alice

Alice — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 20:09:08 +0000

Dear Ebba,

Thank you thank you thank you for sharing this story!
To be perfectly honest, you always seemed like that perfect girl to me. Reading through your blog, I see that you’re funny and smart and absolutely gorgeous. You wear super adorable clothes, have an amazing fashion sense, and seem to always be having a great time. It’s dangerous to just make assumptions about people though.
Bullying is definitely hard to deal with. I’ve changed schools somewhere around 10 times so far so I definitely know what it feels like being the new girl. Having to walk around all alone looking for someone to sit with during lunch is one of the hardest experiences in school to go through. Having no one to be partnered with or being seen as “that weird girl” in class definitely hurts a lot. I have all these different experiences with bullying and new schools and whatnot. All these memories are flooding back as I read this post.
I still remember how in 4th grade, I changed to this super tiny school near my house. There were 13 kids in our class and everyone know everyone else. I started school a week late, I didn’t know the same things as them, and I felt like I was from a whole other planet. Those times were really hard and I still remember crying in bed every night. Luckily, over time, I was gradually able to see that a few people were willing to be my friends and were amazing wonderful people.
Then, in 7th grade, at a completely different school (in a different country!), I remember walking around all by myself for what seemed like hours in the cafeteria. Since I had never visited the school before that day (my parents randomly decided to move to another country and enroll my little brother and me in a school that neither of us had never even heard about). I remember finally getting so desperate that I walked up to a random girl and asked, “Is it okay if I sit here? I’m new and I won’t get in the way of you and your friends.” That wasn’t exactly the best moment of my life. Luckily though, I gradually was able to make some friends whom I am still in touch with. Even though I moved schools a few times after that year, I still have best friends who I love there!

Sorry for all my rambling Ebba!
I just wanted to say thank you for sharing this part of your life with us. I’ve really happy for you and super glad that you were able to change schools and find some amazing people to be friends with. From what I can tell, your friends all seem like such lovely, wonderful people!
If I had known you, I think I would have tried to be friends with you. You seem so kind, so friendly, and absolutely amazing.
Never change.

Love love love!! <3 <3 <3

~Alice
The Ace of Hearts

Av: Jessica

Jessica — Wed, 08 Aug 2012 15:57:11 +0000

I’ve felt this way almost every year at school. I’ve been bullied for 12 years, 9 of them consecutives. And I’m 23. The worst of them was in the course 2009-2010. No one deserves this. Being bullied is one of the worst things, above all if it’s psychological bullying, because you can’t show it as clearly as physical bullying. In my case no one listened to me: teachers, counselor, principal, head of studies… of all of them, only two teachers (one in my 2nd secondary school course and the other in 2009-2010 course) listened to me, believed me and tried to solve it. Both defended me, but the rest didn’t do anything. In 2009-2010 course, the counselor said me that I had to deal with it, that it would be just a course and it couldn’t be so hard.
If you had been in my class, I would have wanted to know you, because you seem a nice and friendly girl.
Thank you for sharing such a private part of your life with us.
I love you.